expectations

Expectations…

Why do we have expectations. Expectations from people, expectation from life, to the point of having expectations from God Himself.

I sometimes feel, in order to make a relation work , we should not have any expectations from it. It is this expectations that leads to all problems. We expect the other person to understand us even when nothing is said. A child, when young, expects the mother to understand his every action. And in turn when the mother grows old, expects her child to understand all her needs. A teacher expects his student to perform. But is disappointed when he doesn’t. a PM expects the team members to perform but he himself may not meet the expectations of the team members.

If, in a relation, we do not expect anything in return, isn’t that relation supposed to last long? We just give to the relation for making it work. And when we get something in return, it will be as a bonus. So don’t think high. Keep a low profile and be happy in whatever you get!!!!

But then sometimes I feel this is not the case.

We have different types of relations. Some are close to our hearts, some are just acquaintances, some we don’t even bother to care about. Wat is it that makes this distinction between the relations? Isn’t it the close bond that we share. The bond that is developed when two people completely understand each other and do not have to use words for communicating. Then wat is wrong if I expect someone to totally understand wat I am feeling at the moment. To react in a way that would not aggravate the situation. Well these are the people who I think as my own, and I feel there is no harm in wanting them to behave in a particular manner.

Then wat should one do??? Have expectations or not!!!!!!!

love vs friendship

Wats th difference between love and friendship? Aren’t they the same??
I often get confused between the two. Isint love there in friendship or isint friendship there in love??? I love my friends and the person who I love is my friend. Then wat is it that makes them different…

Many believe that love is the basis of all relations. Shouldn’t that be friendship? Take any relation and it begins with friendship. The understanding between the siblings is developed because they are friends with each other. The teacher student relation is built because the teacher understands the student as a friend would. The mother understands the child because she gets down to the level of the child and tries to make the child feel comfortable and be friends with him. Even the great love stories like “ Laila Majnu “, began with friendship that blossomed in their early days.

I feel I often mistake love with friendship. When we say we are looking for true love, do we actually mean that we are looking for a true friend to share everything we have? The good and the bad both. They are so mingled. How do you differentiate between the two?

trust

What can be done.
i was doing something and I knew it was wrong.
But took utmost care that things go well.
But someone broke my trust. Didn’t even imagine it would have such a grave impact.
I want to know who and where things went wrong. But cannot do it. It might worsen the situation. Have to stand helplessly and be a victim to what ever happened. Feels pathetic.
I want this to end but donno how….

This trust thing out of my mind. I trust anyone and every one. i am good ( not praising my self here) and expect that people are good too. Never understand wat game the other one is playing.

I can never judge wat to say , when to say , whom to say, how to say…
All these things never come to my mind.
Its just that I know something and I want people around me also to know wats in my mind…
And so go about telling people about each and everything that happens “ life is an open book “…
Why cant I just keep my mouth shut.

Is it bad to be frank with people? All this while I always felt that whatever is in your mind you should just let it out. So that no hard feelings in the heart and you can let go and move on…